JCMmanuel,
Thank you for such a thoughtful response. I love your point about taking personal responsibility and reflecting on self. I feel when we get to this point in life, the real life starts. Warm Regards-Dalila

Or, to put it the opposite way: the real complaint is not self-complaint, but rather complaint “against yourself” – you understand that the source of a problem usually has at least something to do with some sort of inner struggle. Consequently, you will not typically tend to attribute (part of) the cause of your problem to someone else – who “should” then do everything he or she can do to help you out. This is putting the burden on the other – and the reason why friendship may then often fails is, that this burden is simply too heavy for most of us – because it cannot be solved by someone else.

Thank you, Anna. I appreciate. It’s so true. I remember when I was growing up, I would say, “I don’t care how people receive it. I speak my truth.” I was a child of integrity. That was my main value. I would still like to think that I have integrity, but now I understand that communication isn’t just what I have to say but also what I want people to understand. So learning this, helped me be more aware of how my words impact others. Words are very powerful. Effective communication can spare us so much misery.