Comments on: Early Childhood Trauma and Family Upbringing Can Cause Adult Anxiety

By: Peter

Peter — Tue, 24 May 2022 19:53:51 +0000

Excellent article, the first time I’ve seen someone point out that even things that seem trivial to adults (e.g., parents arguing, drunk mother, bullying older sister) can be highly traumatic to an infant. Would like to note though that it’s not just women; men also suffer in this way!

By: Dalila Jusic-LaBerge

Dalila Jusic-LaBerge — Sun, 08 Oct 2017 12:49:41 +0000

In reply to Chris. So well summed up Chris. We, women, are an important part of the well-oiled system. If we start changing there is the most backlash from family members or the society. People really don't expect us to start changing. Thank you.

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 04 Oct 2017 15:31:23 +0000

Thank you for this article.

We (as women) are the bearers of the emotional labor. We work hard because that’s what we do. It’s so ingrained that it becomes automatic for us and our partners. We are not supposed to complain. Or want another arrangement. Or know that other arrangements are even possible. That would upset the unbalanced balance of things. Combining this with anxiety or guilt from unmet childhood needs leads us to feel like it’s our fault for not being satisfied– not the fault of an unbalanced system that that is not stacked in our favor.

By: You Are Enough Although You May Feel You Don't Measure Up

You Are Enough Although You May Feel You Don't Measure Up — Sun, 17 Sep 2017 05:21:42 +0000

[…] You, just as many other accomplished women, wind up feeling as if you are not sufficient in any of your roles. You feel guilty for not spending more time with your partner, your children, and even your career. Although you know there are only 24 hours in a day, you still feel guilty for not accomplishing more. You know you aren't inadequate. Your logical part of the brain has the data to prove it, but boy, do you believe it deep down. Your emotional part of the brain doesn't give you a break. This constant feeling of guilt and lacking is always simmering underneath. Somehow it seems the logical part of your brain is disconnected from your emotional part of the brain. How do we wind up being so fragmented? You can read about how trauma can cause us to be fragmented here. […]

By: Anxiety Affects Our Relationships and Communication

Anxiety Affects Our Relationships and Communication — Fri, 08 Sep 2017 20:53:16 +0000

[…] upbringing contributes to both how we feel and how we relate to our partner and other loved […]

By: Dalila Jusic-LaBerge

Dalila Jusic-LaBerge — Thu, 31 Aug 2017 16:06:51 +0000

In reply to Stacey. Thank you Stacey. This is so common.

By: Dalila Jusic-LaBerge

Dalila Jusic-LaBerge — Thu, 31 Aug 2017 16:06:10 +0000

In reply to Daniela Paolone. Thank you Daniela. You are so right about the self-care. But, somehow we women seem to be programmed to skip it. I'm trying to spread awareness about the importance of it and helping women internalize it

By: Daniela Paolone

Daniela Paolone — Thu, 31 Aug 2017 15:30:17 +0000

Great article! I am glad you talked about self-care too because not taking time out of our day to rest and recharge can really take a toll on relationships.

By: Stacey

Stacey — Thu, 31 Aug 2017 04:32:01 +0000

Such good information that is incredibly relatable!

By: Dalila Jusic-LaBerge

Dalila Jusic-LaBerge — Thu, 31 Aug 2017 03:45:09 +0000

In reply to Chris. Thank you for a kind comment Chris