Comments on: Handle Your Anger Properly so You Don’t Ruin Your Relationship With an Avoidant Partner https://www.behereandnow.com/handle-your-anger-properly-so-you-dont-ruin-your-relationship-with-an-avoidant-partner/ From Anxious Love Seeker to Secure Love Creator Wed, 12 Feb 2025 16:22:46 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9 By: Dalila Jusic-LaBerge https://www.behereandnow.com/handle-your-anger-properly-so-you-dont-ruin-your-relationship-with-an-avoidant-partner/#comments/715 Mon, 29 Jul 2024 16:05:24 +0000 https://www.behereandnow.com/?p=7571#comment-715 In reply to EmmBee.

Hey you are extrapolating a bit. While all what you are saying can be true, this post is created for women with anxious attachment who want to take responsibility for their own behaviors and choices. The post is specifically about anger that reasonably occurs when dealing with avoidant partner. Choosing to stay with someone who doesn’t want to grow to be in a secure relationship with you is on you. You are right though, “It’s time for avoidants to start taking the responsibility…” But, who’s gonna make them? You can keep hoping they will or chose a secure person, but we always need to clean our own house first.

]]> By: EmmBee https://www.behereandnow.com/handle-your-anger-properly-so-you-dont-ruin-your-relationship-with-an-avoidant-partner/#comments/713 Wed, 24 Jul 2024 14:00:58 +0000 https://www.behereandnow.com/?p=7571#comment-713 This is a somewhat dangerous post, stated as fact. Once again, this scenario (chronic avoidance, refusal to connect, and downright disrespect) is presented as somehow in our hands (the non-avoidant) to identify, correct and maintain. While controlling, becoming aware of, working through, and understanding our resentment and anger is most certainly vital and of utmost importance, it is not (and never was) on us to single handedly repair a broken relationship where one partner is ‘in’ and the other is chronically/always ‘out’. This advice is the sort of thing that makes people like us (helpers, people pleasers, codependents) stay in bad relationships forever thinking that we are the problem with the relationship when we are only one part of it. It’s time for avoidants to start taking the responsibility that we have for years and, if they can’t, then we need to get out of the relationship or find a level of acceptance with things as they are sufficient to be able to live in peace daily.

]]> By: How to Control Anger in a Relationship for a Happy Love Life https://www.behereandnow.com/handle-your-anger-properly-so-you-dont-ruin-your-relationship-with-an-avoidant-partner/#comments/445 Tue, 17 May 2022 16:22:27 +0000 https://www.behereandnow.com/?p=7571#comment-445 […] yourself frustrated because your partner doesn't give you enough of his affection. It's essential to manage your anger, so you don't sabotage your relationship. But, beyond that, you can actually utilize your anger to help you build a deeper emotional bond in […]

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