for Women in a Relationship
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Do you sometimes feel as if you are talking to a brick wall when communicating with your partner?
Or perhaps, you don't even express your needs, just to wind up yelling at him for small unrelated issues when you are angry at something else.
Somehow, the more you try to communicate with him, the more he withdraws and seems to care less and less about what you have to say. Why is it so hard when you love each other?
He said he cared for you, so why doesn't he show it with his behaviors?
You love each other, but...
When you just met, you enjoyed meeting each other in the role of romantic partners. But, as time went on life took its course.
You've become familiar with each other, and things became a little stale. You both are busy with many tasks at work, household, with children, etc. Somehow, it wasn't easy to make a special effort for your relationship.
You may not even know what kind of effort you can make besides going on an occasional scheduled date or celebrating anniversaries.
Life naturally wears you out, and when that's paired with withdrawal from the initial honeymoon phase, It's natural that you feel disheartened.
You may start looking at your partner as an answer to your struggle, your hero that will rescue you and make you happy. After all, why did you commit to him? Right?!
Then, you try to communicate with him about your needs, but the more you do so, the more he resists changing to make you happy. And, now, you are stuck not knowing what to do.
Could relationship coaching help improve your relationship?
Do you see yourself in any of these:
What can relationship coaching do for you
I'm not here to tell you that you should not want your man to be your hero. I don't want to tell you that you should find happiness in yourself first (that would help). I'm here to help you improve your relationship with your man.
I want you to know that you have the power to change his behaviors. Once you implement what I'm teaching, you can start getting completely different results from your partner.
Not just that, he will be thrilled. He will probably call me to thank me for whatever I did to help you change. You see, he will see a change in you. You will learn how to inspire him.
Just so you know, I'm not teaching you old school knowledge on how to be a humble woman, so that your hubby or partner become merciful and change their behaviors.
No! No! No! I'm here to teach you mindfulness skills that will help you be in touch with your emotions and then communicate with your men directly from your heart. Instead of feeling attacked, he can get a desire to protect you from whatever is bothering you, even if it's him.
I will give you tips that will help you inspire him to change his behaviors. Because you know what? He does want to be your hero.
How working with me changes my clients
Ayla was on the verge of filing for divorce when she found me. I helped her with communication skills with her husband.
When Ayla understood how her husband thinks, and when she became aware of what her feelings are, she was able to utilize communication skills I taught her.
Not only did her husband listen to her, and their relationship was resurrected, but they were able to find a new passion for each other and their relationship.
Ayla is now happy, and her husband doesn't feel constantly attacked by her. She has such communication skills that their arguments bring them closer together. This is what my special communication techniques do for my clients.
See what one of my clients say about my work
These skills will help you if you want to have a happy love life with your partner
To help you get the fastest results, I create a specialized curriculum just for you based on the questionnaire that you complete and feedback that you give me. I also prescribe homework that will help you solidify the skills we are working on.
I describe some of the most essential skills below. Click on each to find out more about them.
UNDERSTAND YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU NEED FROM YOUR PARTNER
Knowing yourself is essential if you want to be able to communicate with your partner. When I say knowing yourself, I mostly mean emotions in this case although there are other skills involved.
Once you are in touch with your emotions, you can communicate with your partner from your heart. That’s when he can feel you and connect with his protective instincts.
You can be assertive to set your boundaries and empower your partner to feel like your hero rather then him feeling like your villain.
Relationship coaching focuses on helping you understand yourself. I carefully designed the questionnaire that you can complete before we start working together so it can help us with clarity.
I also ask just the right questions, to help you explore and gain more insight into yourself.
CREATE NEW EMPOWERING BELIEFS ABOUT YOURSELF
Once you get to understand yourself, you will be able to notice your limiting beliefs that may prevent you from receiving love from your partner. If you deep down don’t believe that you are worthy of love, the affection that your partner gives you may not satisfy you. He may stop trying and you will feel even more dishartened. We can work on helping you change them and replace them with more empowering beliefs.
Those limiting beliefs perpetuate potentially gloomy story in your head. With this kind of mindset, you will be forced into a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your behaviors will be geared towards making the story in your head come true. You don't want a gloomy ending.
When you sign up for relationship coaching with me, I utilize special techniques to help you create the narative that leads to hope and growth. Doing this enables you to see yourself and your relationship in a more positive light.
This kind of mindset leads to happier you and happier interactions with your partner. Your relationship can have a happy begining.
LEARN TO HANDLE DIFFICULT FEELINGS ANDTAKE SPACE
When you are in a romantic relationship, your old wounds from childhood or past relationships may be triggered. So, you may sometimes lash out at your partner for a small thing from his side.
Thus it's vital that you learn how to process your feelings before you lash out at him. This will allow you to be in touch with your feelings, understand what action or words hurt you, and thus you can communicate openly with him.
I will coach you how to deal with these emotions so you can communicate assertively without hurting him. When you talk with him then, he will be able to hear you.
UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER AND HOW HE COMMUNICATES
Understanding your partner is essential for developing a deeper bond with him. If you’ve been unhappy for some time, it’s possible that you may feel disempowered.
With such a mindset, it’ll be hard to see what he is going through. Naturally, you see him as someone who’s at fault for your negative feelings.
When you communicate from this place, he feels attacked.My relationship coaching will help you become more attuned to your partner and his emotions.
This work will help you tune into your empathy skills that are essential for a happy relationship.I teach you skills that can help you be present and attuned instead of anxious and worried if he will change his behaviors or not.
So, instead of reading some superficial advice about how men think, you can learn the skills to understand your man's soul and have a feel where he comes from.
COMMUNICATION SKILLS TO REACH HIS HEART & NURISH LOVE
Communication is essential for a happy relationship. But, when we think of communication, we often think we need to express ourselves, be open, and that's it. The other party needs to take it or leave it.
Often, women struggle to express themselves with men. If you are like the majority of women, you may struggle to say what's on your mind. Then, when you get fed up, you may wind up spewing something that you were not aware was in you just to see a freaked out guy on the opposite side of the table.
In my relationship coaching, you will learn how to be in touch with your emotions and how to communicate both likes and dislikes in the ways that both your partner and you will feel empowered. This will help you build an emotional bond with your man.
When my clients utilize these skills, they rave about how their partner becomes more attentive and loving.
SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES AND GET CLOSER TO HIM
If you are struggling to express yourself, you guy may not even know what’s going on. He may not even realize that some of his behaviors bother you. If you never express yourself and set boundaries, you don’t give him a chance to make you happy.
He may even wonder if you are in it for the wrong reasons if you never express yourself and tolerate his bad behaviors.
On the other hand, if you constantly criticize him, he will give up on trying. Setting boundaries is essential for building deeper bond and respect.
There can be other skills. An individualized approach is essential for success, and we focus on what you need to work on for your specific situation.
My clients feel so happy that for the first few months they expect something horrible to happen
I want you to know that you too can change your relationship. You can feel the renewed happiness and guess what. You may be able to do it without dragging him into a therapy session.
If he wants to go, great! Most likely he doesn't, so that's why you are here on this page. You can singlehandedly switch things around. How would that look like?
Imagine, him buying you gifts and flowers every now and then, just because... How would that feel? I bet you great, huh?
Imagine your partner becoming a teddy bear instead of emotionally distant John Wayne type, the way you are used to.
Then, he becomes protective of you in front of everyone and makes sure he's got your back. That feels good, huh?
It's like falling in love all over again. You can make this happen regardless of how bleak your situation looks like.
While you are waiting for something terrible to happen your man proves you wrong
Relationship coaching for women in a relationship can help you resurrect your love
I know it's hard to believe when you tried so many things, and nothing worked, but...
These methods work if you are dedicated to your relationship and are willing to let go of your ego and do the necessary work. My clients are usually skeptical too, but they usually regain hope after our first session when they implement the changes I suggest.
Otherwise, what else can you do? Wait for something to happen? Try doing something random and hope it works out? The problem with that approach is that your relationship may deteriorate to the point of no return.
Don't let that happen.
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What are the next steps-how do we proceed
What’s the usual procedure when working with me?
- Book a free discovery session so we can see what you need to work on to resurrect your relationship. During our conversation, we can create specific objectives that will help you accomplish your goals.
- If we decide to work together, I will send you initial documentation to complete online. You would complete a questionnaire too that would give me a little bit more information about you and your relationship. This will give me more insight into your specific situation. We would schedule our meetings.
- You download ZOOM if you already don’t have it, and we would meet online. ZOOM is free and easy to work with.
My personal belief is that each of us is the best that the world can gift to one lucky person. Your anxiety prevents you from allowing yourself to show up as you are. You are IT for someone just because you are you!
I formed Be Here & Now Relationship Academy giving my best from decades of personal experience and years of diverse clinical work and advanced training. My drive is to help people accept themselves, so they can be ready for love.
Read more about my views
I've always been on a quest for love in my personal life, and it baffles me how complicated relationships get. Why is it so? We all want to give and receive love, so why isn't it easy?
After decades of trying to figure it out in my personal life and working with numerous clients in individual and couple's therapy, it's clear to me that anxiety is what keeps us from enjoying love, relationships, and life in general. You don't have to be diagnosed with anxiety to be hindered by it. In regular life, people call it fear.
I think it's a bit misguiding. Fear is our response to a real threat that's happening at the moment. We are designed to respond in fight, flight, or faint death responses to protect our physical safety.
Anxiety is different. You worry about all the potential scary outcomes and therefore stay away from what should be joyful in life. For instance, when it comes to love, you hide your true personality because you are worried that you will not be liked just the way you are. So, this is one of the reasons I specialize in anxiety and trauma. They prevent you from enjoying the most rewarding experience in life, love.
If you want to know more about my background and education, you can check it out. Read more abut Dalila
A moment of reflection
Now, I invite you to ask yourself an important question. Imagine if in five or ten years everything stays the same as it is now. How do you feel when you think like this?
If you are happy with it, then you don't have to do anything about your situation. If you are not, then I urge you to make the first step and book a free discovery session with me. This could be your first step towards the relationships you dream of.
If you are not ready to book the discovery session, then sign up for my free membership where you can get free courses about communication and limiting beliefs that hinder your relationship.
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