Comments on: You Are Good Enough-Why Do You Feel Inadequate

By: jen

jen — Mon, 27 Feb 2023 22:26:38 +0000

I after reading this which is a reassuring “good enough” article
I kind of take it that many people feel inadequate so it might be a normal human characteristic. Unintentionally shaped by parents who also get the inadequacy feeling from corporate ideas of money first and people second. My mum was made of the effects of her dad’s childhood of severe institutional abuse. she told me she can’t be proud of her kids because that means being proud of herself and she is not, due to things her dad said and did to her.

By: Robert Hammel

Robert Hammel — Tue, 10 Oct 2017 19:10:59 +0000

Great article, many of us spend the precious hours of our lives trying to feel “adequate” with the expectations from our childhood and/or from others driving the car.

By: Dalila Jusic-LaBerge

Dalila Jusic-LaBerge — Sun, 08 Oct 2017 12:46:13 +0000

In reply to Jessica. Jessica, Thank you for the wonderful insight and sharing your experience. It's interesting to me how some of these parental efforts help us in some ways, but there is always a price to pay. Often parents who try to raise high achieving children wind up raising anxious adults too. I think their anxiety and fear trickle down to children in spite of the best efforts. The way I see it, we can work on it now as adults. With the help of a good therapist, we can reparent ourselves into a more balanced person, who's high achiever as well as not anxious.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 05 Oct 2017 09:45:01 +0000

I really enjoyed your article,it really had me thinking, especially the part about how are parents (unintentionally) make us feel like we are not enough by constantly comparing our situation to another. I actually remember my mom, as a black woman, telling me I had to work twice as hard as a white person just to be even. I know this message is very prominant within the African-American community. It’s suppose to give us strength and seek validation from within but it also can play with our self esteem and create anxiety. I think it’s important to constantly remind ourselves that we are good enough and to highlight our strengths.