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Comment on Handle Your Anger Properly so You Don’t Ruin Your Relationship With an Avoidant Partner by Dalila Jusic-LaBerge

Dalila Jusic-LaBerge — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 16:05:24 +0000

In reply to EmmBee.

Hey you are extrapolating a bit. While all what you are saying can be true, this post is created for women with anxious attachment who want to take responsibility for their own behaviors and choices. The post is specifically about anger that reasonably occurs when dealing with avoidant partner. Choosing to stay with someone who doesn’t want to grow to be in a secure relationship with you is on you. You are right though, “It’s time for avoidants to start taking the responsibility…” But, who’s gonna make them? You can keep hoping they will or chose a secure person, but we always need to clean our own house first.

Comment on Your Avoidant Partner Can’t Fall in Love Until You Change One Thing by Dalila Jusic-LaBerge

Dalila Jusic-LaBerge — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 16:00:26 +0000

In reply to Charles. This can be true for sure, but what matters is that you are the one who determines what kind of relationship you want for yourself.

Comment on Handle Your Anger Properly so You Don’t Ruin Your Relationship With an Avoidant Partner by EmmBee

EmmBee — Wed, 24 Jul 2024 14:00:58 +0000

This is a somewhat dangerous post, stated as fact. Once again, this scenario (chronic avoidance, refusal to connect, and downright disrespect) is presented as somehow in our hands (the non-avoidant) to identify, correct and maintain. While controlling, becoming aware of, working through, and understanding our resentment and anger is most certainly vital and of utmost importance, it is not (and never was) on us to single handedly repair a broken relationship where one partner is ‘in’ and the other is chronically/always ‘out’. This advice is the sort of thing that makes people like us (helpers, people pleasers, codependents) stay in bad relationships forever thinking that we are the problem with the relationship when we are only one part of it. It’s time for avoidants to start taking the responsibility that we have for years and, if they can’t, then we need to get out of the relationship or find a level of acceptance with things as they are sufficient to be able to live in peace daily.

Comment on Your Avoidant Partner Can’t Fall in Love Until You Change One Thing by Charles

Charles — Fri, 28 Jun 2024 03:05:12 +0000

The problem with avoidants is that as soon as they feel you give them space, they come back to you and then, when you open your arms, they just disappear again.

The point is they don’t want the relationship to be a healthy one because they don’t know how to handle it. If the relationship is worth it, it means there’s too much to lose for them.

Comment on Your Avoidant Partner Can’t Fall in Love Until You Change One Thing by Ethan

Ethan — Fri, 25 Aug 2023 17:18:55 +0000

This was one of the best reads in years. Thank you so much.

Comment on Thinking That Men Are Afraid of High Achieving Women May Be What Keeps You Single by Fred Kim

Fred Kim — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 02:36:17 +0000

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Comment on You Are Good Enough-Why Do You Feel Inadequate by jen

jen — Mon, 27 Feb 2023 22:26:38 +0000

I after reading this which is a reassuring “good enough” article
I kind of take it that many people feel inadequate so it might be a normal human characteristic. Unintentionally shaped by parents who also get the inadequacy feeling from corporate ideas of money first and people second. My mum was made of the effects of her dad’s childhood of severe institutional abuse. she told me she can’t be proud of her kids because that means being proud of herself and she is not, due to things her dad said and did to her.

Comment on Early Childhood Trauma and Family Upbringing Can Cause Adult Anxiety by Peter

Peter — Tue, 24 May 2022 19:53:51 +0000

Excellent article, the first time I’ve seen someone point out that even things that seem trivial to adults (e.g., parents arguing, drunk mother, bullying older sister) can be highly traumatic to an infant. Would like to note though that it’s not just women; men also suffer in this way!

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How to Control Anger in a Relationship for a Happy Love Life — Tue, 17 May 2022 16:22:27 +0000

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Comment on Your Avoidant Partner Can’t Fall in Love Until You Change One Thing by Three Ways to Express Your Needs to Make Him Want to Be Close to You

Three Ways to Express Your Needs to Make Him Want to Be Close to You — Tue, 26 Apr 2022 22:07:00 +0000

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