Are You Ready to Transform Generational Unhealthy Patterns into Peaceful, Connected Living?
Using neuroscience-based trauma informed somatic therapy I help overwhelmed women break free from perfectionism, anxiety, and relationship struggles.
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Due to Generational or Attachment Trauma (Most Times it's Both) You May be Experiencing:
Difficulty setting boundaries with family and partners
- You say yes to additional projects while already overwhelmed
- You cancel your plans to accommodate others' last-minute requests
- You find yourself responding to work emails during family time
- You struggle to express your needs without feeling guilty
- Your partner's minor disappointment feels unbearable, leading you to compromise your own needs
Physical Symptoms of Anxiety and Stress
- Tension headaches that worsen during high-pressure periods
- Sleep disruption - either difficulty falling asleep or waking up with racing thoughts
- Stomach issues that doctors say are stress-related
- Tight shoulders and jaw that no amount of massage seems to fix
- Racing heart when facing conflict or potential disappointment
Relationship Patterns That Feel Familiar Yet Painful
- Attracting partners who need "fixing" or emotional caretaking
- Finding yourself as the "responsible one" in every relationship
- Feeling anxious when partners need space or don't respond immediately
- Struggling to receive care or support from others
- Maintaining surface-level harmony while suppressing your true feelings
- Feeling that if you don’t propel the relationship, it will just dissolve as your partner will never step up
The Weight of Generational Trauma in Daily Life
- Feeling guilty about success when your family struggled financially while carrying the unspoken expectation to "do better" than previous generations
- Struggling to express emotions because "being strong" was valued in your family
- Finding yourself repeating your mother's emotional and relational patterns despite promising you wouldn't
- Feeling responsible for family members' emotional well-being
Struggle to embrace
Constant Overwhelm and a Sense of Inadequacy Despite Doing Everything 'Right’
- You're the one everyone counts on - managing your career, family's schedules, and household - yet you never feel on top of things
- Although you’ve created a good morning routine, use all the right productivity tools, but still feel behind
- Despite meticulous planning and organization, your mind races with forgotten tasks and pending responsibilities
- You're successful at work, take care of your health, yet still feel like you're failing somewhere
- Even your self-care feels like another item on your to-do list
- Your achievements are impressive to others, but you focus on the small imperfections
You exceed expectations at work but still feel the need to prove yourself - Although you prepare well for presentations and get positive feedback from colleagues, you still feel like you don’t do quite a good job.
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Here is how it works
Book a consultation session to see if we are the right fit to work together. If we agree that we are a good fit, I will send you documentation and a questionnaire to complete before our first meeting.
We will then together create a specific treatment plan to meet your goals. We will define parameters that will help us know when you’ve achieved your goals.
These are some of benefits my clients see:
From Overthinking to Embodied Wisdom
Transform the exhausting mental loop of "shoulds" and "what-ifs" into clear, confident decisions. Through somatic psychotherapy, you'll:
- Access your body's natural intelligence
- Release the burden of constant analysis
- Make decisions with quiet confidence
- Feel peaceful in your own skin
- Trust your inherent wisdom
From Overwhelming Emotions to Regulated Presence
Move beyond being hijacked by anxiety and stress to experiencing emotional freedom. Using neurobiological approaches, you'll:
- Understand your nervous system's patterns
- Develop practical regulation skills
- Transform anxiety into useful information
- Create lasting emotional stability
- Build resilience for life's challenges
From Generational Patterns to Authentic Power
Break free from inherited trauma patterns that keep you stuck in people-pleasing and perfectionism. Through our integrated approach, you'll:
- Recognize inherited patterns that no longer serve you
- Create new ways of being in relationships
- Set boundaries without guilt
- Express needs with confidence
- Build genuine connections while staying true to yourself
The Result:
Instead of constantly doing, fixing, and proving, you'll experience the peaceful confidence of being authentically you - in your career, relationships, and life.
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Here is what clients are saying
Thank you for helping me find peace.
I've been wanting to write this email for a while. When I first came to you, I was constantly in my head, analyzing everything, and feeling physically sick from anxiety. I couldn't believe it when you said my body could actually help me feel calm instead of anxious.
Today, I realized how far I've come. In a high-pressure meeting, instead of getting overwhelmed, I actually felt grounded and enthusiastic. I used the somatic techniques you taught me, and for the first time, I could feel my natural confidence without that crushing anxiety. My team even commented on how my leadership style has become more impactful.
Thank you for showing me that being strong doesn't mean being constantly stressed. The peace I've found is priceless.
A different kind of mother
Dalila,
I had to share this moment with you. Yesterday, my daughter told me she loves how I listen to her now. She said I seem "happier and cool." Hearing this made me cry because breaking these generational patterns was exactly why I started therapy with you.
Remember how I used to complain about trying to do everything for everyone and yet they were ungrateful? Through our work together, I've learned that taking care of myself isn't selfish - it's necessary. The parts work we did helped me understand why I was always trying to be perfect, and now I can actually enjoy being "good enough."
My relationship with my family has transformed, and it all started with learning to have a better relationship with myself.
Thank you for helping me create a different story for the next generation.
Finally feeling like myself again
Dear Dalila,
I've been reflecting on our journey together, and I wanted to express my deepest gratitude. When I first started therapy, I was successful on paper but feeling completely disconnected from myself. The physical symptoms - the headaches, the tight chest, the sleepless nights - were taking over my life.
Through our work together, I've learned to listen to these physical signals instead of pushing them away. It’s funny how becoming aware of them and paying attention to these bodily sensations help me feel better right away. I will never disregard myself again.
The neurobiological understanding you provided helped me make sense of my experiences, and the somatic techniques have given me practical tools for daily life.
Today, I feel like I'm finally living in my body instead of just in my head. The anxiety is no longer running my life, and I can actually enjoy my achievements instead of always pushing for the next thing.
Thank you for helping me find my way back to myself.
The relationship breakthrough I needed
Dalila,
I had to write to you after what happened last night. For the first time in my life, I was able to express my needs to my husband without feeling guilty or anxious about his response. Instead of my usual pattern of apologizing or over-explaining, I stayed grounded in my body (like we practiced) and spoke from a place of self-worth.
The most amazing part? He thanked me for being so clear and direct. He is actually sending you thanks too for helping me do this. This is such a far cry from where I started - always walking on eggshells and trying to manage everyone's emotions but my own.
The somatic work we've done has changed not just my relationship with others, but with myself. I finally understand what you meant about "feeling safe in my own skin."
Thank you for showing me what's possible.
Client Journey to Embodied Peace
Online Therapy
by Dalila Jusic-LaBerge
While every journey is unique, most clients report:
- Reduced anxiety within 2-3 weeks
- Better sleep within the first month
- Improved relationships by month 3
- Significant pattern shifts by month 6
Months 1-2: Assessment and Foundation Building
Stabilization and addressing the most urgent needs
What You'll Experience:
- Initial nervous system regulation techniques while getting comfortable and familiar with each other.
- Understanding your body's stress signals
- Basic somatic awareness practices
- Recognition of inherited patterns
Early Wins:
- Better sleep quality
- Reduced physical tension
- First experiences of emotional regulation
- Beginning awareness of trigger patterns
Months 3-4: Deep Integration
What You'll Experience:
- Advanced somatic practices
- Parts work exploration
- Generational pattern recognition
- New boundary-setting practices
Observable Changes:
- Decreased anxiety symptoms
- More confident decision-making
- Improved relationship dynamics
- Stronger sense of self-trust
Months 5-6: Embodied Transformation
What You'll Experience:
- Advanced regulation techniques
- Deeper parts integration
- New pattern establishment
- Relationship dynamic shifts
Noticeable Results:
- Natural boundary setting
- Confident self-expression
- Regulated nervous system
- Authentic relationship patterns
Months 6+: Sustainable Growth
What You'll Experience:
- Pattern reinforcement
- Life integration
- Relationship evolution
- Legacy building
Long-Term Benefits:
- Sustained emotional regulation
- Natural confidence
- Authentic relationships
- Generational pattern transformation
Meet
Dalila Jusic-LaBerge
I'm the owner of Be Here & Now Counseling and Relationship Academy. I specialize in working with accomplished women, who yearn for love but feel lost in romantic relationships. I help them heal, connect to their own emotions, develop intuition, and be ready to connect on a deeper emotional level with loved ones.
Love has been my yearning in life forever. I remember as a little girl thinking, “One day, I will find the love of my life.” Besides that, I geek out on politics and hopelessly try to convince people we deserve better treatment like in other developed countries.
But, perhaps more relevant to you, I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship coach helping women create relationships that will actually make them happy and in which they can love freely without the need for overfunctioning, confusion, and mind games.
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After countless heartbreaks, I stumbled upon Dalila's program, skeptical but hopeful. Her promise of guiding me towards soulful love seemed too good to be true. Yet, her compassionate approach and clinical wisdom resonated with my weary heart. Through her program, I unearthed a deep sense of self-love and security, the key I'd been missing. Now, I'm sharing my life with someone who not only cherishes my achievements but also my soul. This journey to soulful love has been the most significant transformation of my life, all thanks to Dalila."
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… As a professional woman, I hoped to meet a man who wasn't intimidated by my success. Dalila's program helped me discover how closed off I was to quality men who were not intimidated by my success. I realized I was the one who kept pursuing men who couldn’t love me the way I needed them to love me. Dalila helped me work through the attachment trauma that prevented me from being open to real love regardless of how much I craved it. Today, I'm not just in a relationship; I'm in a partnership that nourishes my soul and celebrates my ambitions. I still need to pinch myself on occasion wondering when this will all fall apart, but no. It’s not falling apart. We are growing closer and closer instead. We are engaged and my fiance is proud and inspired by my success.
Let’s create your love story YOUR way
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Are you unhappy with your marriage and considering divorce, but terrified of the idea? You may feel that something has to change, but you are stuck and don’t know what to do. Your spouse may not realize how unhappy you are.
Or, maybe your spouse is mentioning divorce because he is unhappy with the way things are. You both may be unhappy, but are unsure of how to proceed with this. You may have tried couple’s counseling, but it didn’t help. There is a reason why it didn’t work. Couples counseling will not be helpful if both parties are not dedicated to the process. Discernment Counseling may be a good option for the two of you.
Equine Assisted Therapy
Figuring out your deep soul’s desire is the first step towards healing. Horses can help us understand ourselves.
Although I’ve always known about Equine Assisted Therapy modality, my experience with horses led me to become more interested in it. While taking riding lessons a few years ago, I realized that I enjoy spending time with horses even more than riding them. As it was great to ride them and feel powerful that this beautiful huge animal listens to my commands, I was even more excited just to hang around and groom them. This brought so much joy and calm to me. All my difficulties in life were easier to manage. This connection with horses would just fill my batteries. I’m sure every horse enthusiast will know what I’m talking about. I realized horses are therapeutic. They make some people feel good. It was much easier to survive an upcoming difficult week at work and long commutes in LA traffic during the upcoming week after visiting my four-legged friends.