How to Get a Guy Plan a Date Without Being Pushy

How to Make Him Arrange More Dates Without Being Pushy

Wouldn't it be nice if you would know how to get a guy to plan a date? It can be frustrating if you really like him, and he is not showing you the same level of interest. I’m about to tell you how to make him arrange more dates without being pushy while increasing sexual tension. When I say “make” I mean inspire. Secure women don’t need to make someone do anything for them. But, if you feel that the guy you are dating is not meeting your standards of effort in courting and you kinda like him, you can do something about it and see how he responds.

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#1 mistake women make when he doesn't make enough effort

how to get a guy plan a date

Unfortunately what many women do is start speculating why he is not asking you out for the dates. Many of you go from “he is not that into me” to “He is too attracted to me and he is afraid to mess it up.” Notice these both are very extreme possibilities and you wind up driving yourself crazy speculating, talking to your friend for hours over the phone. 

Then you wind up overfunctioning. This is the word I use to describe the type of anxiety that urges you to have everything under control and trying to figure out how to behave, what to say, what not to say, so you can be accepted, appreciated, loved…

When you put yourself into this overfunctioning spin, you wind up exhausted, frustrated, and even more confused. This further causes you to feel resentful. You can’t connect emotionally with him from this place. You most likely wind up arguing instead.

Then you become angry at him, but you are really angry with yourself for accepting less than what you deserve. How do get a guy to plan a date without all this drama? 

There are several nuanced ways of handling this situation that I teach in Love Building Communication, which is the fifth step of my program, The Course of True Love, but today I will show you the cheekiest one. 

How to get a guy plan more dates - fun way of communicating that his efforts of courting you are not satisfactory

It’s light, it’s fun, and it can actually help you increase attraction and chemistry with him. One of the ways of communicating this is utilizing humor. It sounds something like the this: "What happened? I thought you were abducted by aliens. Then slide a bit of cockiness. Say something like, I’m not used to guys disappearing on me. What’s up with you? " You are basically showing how cool and funny you are, while at the same time, you are telling him that he is not measuring up to the other men. If he is your man, this should motivate him to step up a bit. 

how to get a guy plan a date

If this doesn’t motivate him, then you need to consider if he is right for you. Can you be happy with him the way he courts you now? 

You have some serious thinking to do. 

If you want to know how to show up in the ways that will motivate them to pursue you, you can apply to work with me


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