“Don’t Talk About Marriage on the First Date” Is the Worst Advice for Women Who Want to Get Married
“Don’t talk about marriage on the first date'' is the worst advice for women who want to get married. I see a lot of advice like this in the field. This usually comes from the notion that if you want to raise your attractiveness level, you need to be mysterious and not committal. What to talk about on a first date if your final goal is to get married?
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Being authentic on the first date and talking about your goals is essential if you want commitment
This dating advice is so common so I understand why you might think this. But let me ask you. Do you think you would be successful applying to a college if you said that you don’t know what your goals are? Does this make the college administration warm and fuzzy about you? Or if you applied for a job, loan, or just about anything in the world…How much success would you have if you stated that you had no idea why you are applying? I believe the answer to these questions will be No. None of these people would feel confident about entering into a contract with you. What makes you think that a secure man, a man that wants the best for himself, the kind of man that wants a quality relationship, will feel secure giving his heart to someone who doesn’t know what they want?
So, why wouldn’t you express your goals of dating openly and honestly? Why would you hide your desires as if there is something wrong with them? That’s not what confident women do and what confident men find attractive or reassuring.
What should you do instead if you want to attract confident, quality men, who want the same as you, commitment, dedication, marriage, family....
What to talk about on a first date or in general if you want to attract relationship-ready men?
There are great things you can talk about. Here is a list of questions that will help you get to know your date sooner. For now, we are focusing on dismantling the belief that you shouldn't talk about marriage as if wanting marriage is shameful. Don't allow yourself to fall for it. Let's see how secure love creators deal with it.
How do secure women attract quality men who want to commit to them?
They express themselves openly knowing that there is nothing wrong with wanting marriage, love, connection…
Secure love creators don’t let anyone convince them that they should hide who they are and what they want. They know they are worthy of all of it because they are aware that their heart and time are the most precious gifts to someone.
This kind of mindset has a profound effect on these powerful women. These women appear confident, and men that meet them feel attracted to this kind of integrity.
Although secure love creators have a clear goal when dating, they possess a dose of detachment about it. Yes, they may want marriage, and all that, but they realize that there are so many men that can give them what they need. So, when they express themselves openly like this, they attract the right kinds of men, while repelling the wrong ones, the ones that are not interested in the same goals as they are.
Why are you attracting men who don’t want to commit?
There could be various reasons for not attracting relationship ready men, but one thing is for sure. If you continue being coy about your desires, you will only attract men who want to play the field, have fun, and not commit to anyone. Not being open about your dating goals early, sets you up for wasting your time and potentially falling in love with someone who simply wants to “see where it goes.”
So, what will you do? Will you continue hiding what you are about and circulate through a bunch of dead-end situationships, or will you make a stance and confidently express what you want and deserve?
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