Three Ways to Express Your Needs to Make Him Want to Be Close to You

Three Ways to Express Your Needs to Make Him Want to Be Close to You

Are you tired of regular talks with your partner? You know the kinds of talks I’m talking about? The kinds of talks where you express your needs for more closeness, affection, and time with him.

Although he acknowledges that he’s been a bit busy and expresses a desire to make it better, nothing substantially changes. Super frustrating. If you are an anxious love seeker, this most likely happens to you. If you learn how to express your needs, you can see your partner start showing you more affection.

Imagine if you could express your needs or desires for more closeness, time together, or affection, and just like that you get all you want. You are about to learn exactly how to do that in the ways that bring you closer to your partner. 

Consequences of not expressing your needs

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This is a small part of Conscious Communication, which is a central pillar of my Secure Love Creation framework. This is incredibly important because most high achieving women, anxious love seekers struggle to express their needs. They hope their partner will figure it out, but when he doesn’t many lash out in anger or slowly stew inside.

This only leads to an emotional roller coaster with your partner. Your lashing out leads to arguments after which, you make up and feel close to each other for a little while.  But, then again, you wind up yearning for more affection when your partner withdraws. Your partner can’t allow himself to get emotionally close to you because he is afraid of these emotional ups and downs.

Aren’t you tired of it? Well, you don’t have to be anymore.  I will share with you three ways of expressing your needs. If you express your needs, you will feel more empowered and your partner will feel more at ease that he knows where you come from. This can help you build a powerful connection with your partner. Give your man a little guidance.

Three basic ways in which you can express your needs

Well, here is how you can express your needs and desires for more closeness for example. One thing is important to remember. There is NOTHING wrong with your desires. Once you start owning them, not feeling ashamed of them, and then expressing them, you will see the big difference in how your partner responds to you.

  1. Be vulnerable and share your deep feelings of insecurities with him. Remember, he wants to make you happy and protect you if he is your man of course. Say something like, “When you don’t call me for three weeks, I feel that I don’t matter to you.” Of course this may be hard for you to do if you are not in touch with your feelings, or if you are afraid of sharing them. This happens when there is some attachment wounding or trauma. This is another important aspect of my Secure Love Creation Framework in which I teach you how to be  in touch with your emotions. With some practice, you will get there.

  2. The second way of expressing your feelings is to share your expectations openly. Again, don’t be shy. There are different circumstances in which you can use this strategy. For instance, you can say with clear confidence, “I love old fashion men, those who are interested in marriage and family. You use this when dating. Or, you can gently communicate when he is not meeting your expectations. For instance, you can say, “I don’t date people who engage in back and forth relationship dance. I’m looking for someone who’s invested in showing me openly that they are serious about me.” This may be scary, but let me tell you. This is so powerful. If he is for real, he will get the message and shape up. 

  1. And, finally there is one very powerful method of communicating your needs. It’s the most powerful. Good old praise, nothing like it. The most powerful communication tool that helps you create a deep bond and eventually secure love and relationship. You can say something like, “I love when you plan dates for us. It’s such a turn on for me. “ Men, just like all other living beings in the world, LOVE to know that what they do makes a difference. 

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So, there you have it. You need to know when to use these different methods of expressing your needs. These are just some of them, but there are many more ways to communicate. What matters is that you are confident and that you know deep down that you are worthy of all the affection and attention you crave. We all know you are worthy, but it may be hard for you to feel it deep down due to some attachment trauma or wounding that caused you to have limiting beliefs. This is an essential part of  my Secure Love Creator framework where I help women just like you transition from an anxious love seeker to a secure love creator. 



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