Is the Advice to Wait for Love Keeping You Single?

Your Avoidant Partner Can’t Fall in Love Until You Change One Thing _ Thriv.. 2022-03-28 at 7.35.22 PM

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"Wait for love to come naturally" is an outdated advice created to keep you powerless and confused about your love life. So many powerful high-achieving women fall for this advice although they feel empowered to go after many other desires.

I understand why you fall for this. This message that we should keep ourselves lovely and waiting has been repeated to us for centuries. Even some modern relationship educators tend to repeat this. There is a notion that you as a woman will lose your dignity if things don’t happen “naturally” like they show in romantic comedies. Following this advice could be the reason that you didn’t have a date for months.

Why shouldn't you follow this advice?

If “wait for love to come to you” was the right thing to do, we wouldn’t have so many lonely people waiting and waiting. You have the right to more power when it comes to such an important issue in your life. Think of how much you would increase your chances if you did something different instead of just waiting.

If love is super important to you, are you gonna just leave it to chance? Of course not. There is a much better way to do it. What is it?

What secure lovers do instead of "patiently" waiting for love

So, let’s talk about how you can get some dates. What is it that secure love creators do? How is it that they have multiple suitors, while other women are sitting home and eating ice cream while watching Netflix alone?

Secure love creators show interest in men they like

They initiate contact or at least they signal that they give the green light to those that interest them. Remember, no self-respecting man will pursue you if he doesn't get the green light from you. In order for this to work, you need to remember a couple of things.

You need to diversify your efforts. Show interest in more than one person. Remember, this is just the initial stage. You don’t really know these people. You want to date them to get to know them. So you plant more than one seed. This is how you get to have multiple suitors.
You initiating doesn’t mean that you are needy or desperate. It also does not mean that you are already in love with these people, that you want to marry them, or that. All it means is that you are playful, confident, and curious about getting to know someone.

Of course you may need a little help getting over major nerves. I get it you are not used to this, but once you get going, you will love it.

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