Feel Like a Muse (even if your guy isn't a poet)
Are you tired of dating and not knowing where you stand with a guy? It’s super annoying because you wind up so invested into thinking where you stand with him that you don’t even realize if you like him. Let’s not do this anymore. Keep reading, and I will give you tips that will help you determine if he is the right man for you.
Three Aspects You Need to Keep in Mind to Determine if He Is the Right Man for You
You see, there are no specific qualities that make a man a good candidate for a life partner. It really has to be a personal decision as every woman is different. This is the reason why I give you the most comprehensive multidimensional sort of decision tree. It's not like a checklist and bam.
You need to take a little time to figure this out. The reward will be that you will gain a life skill and several points in your emotional intelligence.
In order to know if he is a good candidate to keep your bed warm for many years to come, you need to consider the following three things:
- How you see him
- How he makes you feel
- How he behaves towards you
If you feel good about these three aspects, then there is a good chance that he is the right man for you. Let me explain this a little more.
How You See Him
It’s important to know that you appreciate and admire him. This is obviously the first aspect. If you didn't like him, we wouldn't need to go further down the list. What are some good signs that he may be your man?
- You are attracted to him. No need for much explanation here. This is not about how handsome he is, what kind of clothes he wears, or anything else, but for some reason, he turns you on.
- You admire him and his occupation. This is a little less obvious but extremely important. If you don’t admire him, you will not respect him. For a happy relationship, he needs to know that you are proud of him.
- You are happy with him just the way he is. You can’t expect that he will change someday. Many women go into a relationship hoping that he will change one day. This will bring misery to your relationship. He will resent you for this. Think about it, you don’t see him for who he is and you are falling in love with your imagination, not him. That’s heartbreaking for him. So, if you don’t think he measures up in some ways, he is not your man.
How He Makes You Feel
The main problem is that you may not be in touch with your emotions. So many women struggle with this because we are not trained to look out for ourselves. Instead, we are raised to figure out how others feel, so we can make them happy.
Friend, this is your life and you need to learn how you feel and what makes you happy. In my Selflove Revolution Course-Turn to Your Anger and Get the Love You Want you will find the tips to learn how to understand your emotions and be in touch with them by examining your anger.
Once you are able to pause and observe how you feel in his company, it will be easier for you to communicate with him. When he is the right man for you, he will reassure you.
So, what are some feelings that will tell you that he is right for you?
You are feeling excited and secure. He doesn’t put you through a hot and cold emotional rollercoaster. Even if you are the most confident woman, you may be triggered to experience emotional ups and downs with emotionally distant men. So, when you feel secure and excited at the same time, it’s a very good sign.
You don’t have to guess if he is interested in you. You don’t need to overthink and over-function. He clearly shows you that he is into you.
Your happiness and sense of security grow as the relationship continues. In other words, you are falling more in love with him, but you are feeling more secure in your relationship at the same time.
As you get to know him more, you like him more. This is an excellent sign.
How He Behaves
They say, don’t trust his words, but watch his behaviors. This is great advice. You will know that he is the right man for you when you observe his behaviors. So, what are some of the behaviors that will reassure you?
He openly pursues you with the desire to learn more about you. As I already explained, you don’t have to overthink. You will know when he is into you.
He is clear about what he wants. In this case, it’s you. Just as I said, you will know. He will try to make plans to see you more often.
As your relationship continues, his plans are more generous and elaborate. In other words, he may want to go on a weekend trip with you, introduce you to his friends and family, and so on.
He doesn’t flake. When he doesn’t flake, it means you are his priority. Of course, surprises can happen to everyone, but this is a general rule. On the other hand, if he flakes often, you know you are not his priority. The truth is ouchy, but so liberating. Know where you stand. You don't have to ask him. Of course, he can be busy. So are you, and he can plan properly.
When there are problems between you two, he is eager to communicate and resolve the issues. He is not gaslighting you and telling you that you are overreacting. Instead, he takes into consideration what you have to say and tries to show you who he really is. This, of course, doesn’t mean that he is spineless. You don’t want someone who will yield to you just out of fear that they will lose you. He may stand up for himself while honoring your feelings.
He is there for you. If you are in some kind of trouble, he will drop everything and be by your side. If you were in a car accident or needed some help, he will be there. You will know he is the right man for you when he comes to protect you or take care of you.
What do you think about all of these signs that he is right for you? Do you have any to add? Let me know. Leave me a comment and share this blog with your friends that may benefit from reading this.
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